Several times over the course of each year, I am often told by parents that it can be a battle at times to get their child to practice. I try to help as best as I can from my end: offering fun incentives, giving them as much help and information as possible during lesson–even (for the private piano students) jotting down some notes for them in their notebooks (my teacher never did that for me!) 🙂 I have answered many emails with every tip that I could think of and recently I came across a blog post from teaching from Teach Piano Today that summarizes everything that I have said into 5 simple and beautiful tips! As we head into recital and exam season, the summer and beyond….check out this wonderful summary by Andrea Dow a fellow piano teacher in BC:
Recently, I had a teacher email me looking for solutions to end the practice wars that were occurring in the home of one of her piano students. Her studio parent was stressed to the max; feeling as though piano practice was creating a rift between her and her child, testing her parenting patience to the limits, and making her say all sorts of things she regretted later. It was not her idea of “music in the home”.
When parents sign their child up for piano lessons they are not looking for a way to encourage epic battles at home. As piano teachers it is in our best interest to help piano studio parents end these battles…
So let’s do everyone a favour and bring peace to the home practice world. Share the following 5 practice strategies with your piano studio parents:
1. Location, location, location
It’s true in the real estate world, and it’s true in the home practice world. Having your piano in the correct place in your home is of paramount importance for successful home practice. Find a balance between shoving the piano in the basement vs. putting the piano in the centre of your most-used room. Your piano should be located in a comfortable room, close to where the family is, but away from major distractions. Your child does not want to be isolated during practice time – but they also do not want to compete with your range hood and washing machine.
2. Cramming is Not the Answer
Nothing stresses a parent out more than helping their child practice when they have 10 minutes before leaving for the piano lesson. Keep the peace at home by beginning home practice immediately after you return home from their piano lesson. They will still remember what they covered in their lesson, and the piano books will actually make it to the piano… setting you up for a good start to the piano practice week. Cramming creates feelings of inadequacy in your child as they struggle to perfect what should take 7 days to percolate. Cramming makes you sweat and wonder why in the world you are paying for these lessons. Cramming is not the answer.
3. Mistakes are Okay
We promise! It’s our job as piano teachers to sort out the mistakes IN LESSON TIME. Your job at home is to be the support – to remind them to spend time on the piano, congratulate them on their efforts, revel in the joy that is your child creating music, and show that you value music in your home. Avoid the following statements and watch peace fall over your home immediately: ”Is that right? I don’t think that’s right.”… “That’s not how it’s supposed to sound.”… “Are you watching your music?”… “Your sister played that piece and it didn’t sound like that.” … “Wrong note!”… “Try it again.” etc. Your child will get their back up immediately and the practice wars are sure to ensue along with frustration and confusion. Suddenly, all the positive things that were discussed in lesson with their teacher has gone out the window.
4. ”But Mrs. Jones Said!”
How many times has your child shouted a statement similar to this? ”Mrs. Jones said I only have to play the first page!”… “Mrs. Jones said to play it up here.”… “Mrs. Jones said to play it this fast!”… What your child is actually trying to say is “I want to be in charge of my learning.” So let them! Whether or not Mrs. Jones actually said these things is beside the point. Resist the urge to argue (and resist the urge to email or call up Mrs. Jones to ask what the heck she is teaching or to have her “clarify things” for you–it is really difficult for a piano teacher to have to “teach” through email) and trust that your child will sort it out themselves. This is often a knee-jerk reaction on your child’s part – they so desperately want to be right and in charge and it’s their way of saying “Stay out of this, I’ve got it.” If you allow them this right to direct their own learning you will help to create a confident piano student.
5. Be Present…
You and your child will enjoy piano practice time so much more if you, the parent, are not multi-tasking. Your child thrives on one-on-one quality time, and if this is combined with their piano practice it is an activity that you will both grow to cherish. Take away the distractions – the cell phone, the baby, the dog, the dinner prep… and focus on just your child. Soak up the experience of watching your young one learn such a complex skill. Find a time to practice that isn’t restricted by deadlines. Just enjoy making music together. It’s impossible to start a practice war if you are truly “bonding on the bench”.
Piano practice is a commitment – it’s a daily event that can either be gloriously wonderful… or horribly stressful. Keep these 5 tips in mind when you start out this new practice week and welcome peaceful piano practice into your home with open arms.